Thursday, February 25, 2010

Communicate sans barrier

Do you know what the world’s number one fear is? Fear of death? Fear of flying? No, most studies suggest that it is the fear of public speaking. Have you ever wondered, if you would be able to articulate your thought across to room of strangers and convince them to act? I haven’t. It wasn’t one of my biggest fears. I could speak to people at ease; I could make a presentation to a hall of gathering after taking in a few breathes. Mark twain once said, there are two kinds of speakers in this world, those feel nervous and the rest all are liars. I am not a liar, no one can deny not being nervous, but one can still make a neat presentation controlling their nervousness. I fall into that category.

One afternoon, I was egged to join a colleague of mine to visit Toastmasters club, a forum that helps to hone your speaking skills. With little option left, I trudged along to join a group of people seated formally. I won a ribbon for the best table topic speaker of the day. It helped me rediscover a speaker in me which I never paid attention to, but what impressed me the most was, the camaraderie in the room and the positive energy that exuberates in any Toastmasters club. I found it as an avenue to network with people. With time, I realized’ Evaluations’, makes Toastmasters unique. In this cut throat world, we have very little time to stop , acknowledge , correct and help our fellow human beings, the race is ran so hard that we fail to realize we have only created stampedes instead of leaving behind trails. This place is an exception, you enter a Toastmasters meeting, everything around you slows down, and you progress!

The entire program is so well thought of and structured that it can cater to anybody’s need. I didn’t have a need when joined; it catered to me as well. Toastmasters helped me understand my strength as a speaker and exposed the dents and holes that required immediate attention to make me a better speaker. Communication is a vital tool. I never knew saying it right made so much of difference in establishing our personal relations, winning deals in business, and sealing victories at work. The power to move the world lies in your communication, the ability to articulate. Over these two years, I have paused to observe many situations where, it is miscommunication that has lead to a grave issue, be it personal or professional life. It is sad that, most of us aren’t even aware that our simple unintentional words create havocs. Even if some of us do, we are left clueless, how to alter? We once again misinterpret it to be our behavior. Our behaviors’ are camouflaged by our words, shed the dry leaves, and use the power of words to reveal yourself. The art of communicating can be revered when the same message gets interpreted by different recipients in one and the only way you intended it to be.

How can I leave behind the leadership opportunities that a Toastmaster club offers you? As one focuses on communicating, even before one can realize, Toastmasters will groom the individual’s leadership abilities. I learnt the rendition of the word ‘Leader’ here. My stint at leading the club from front was the most rewarding experience, a leader can forge ahead getting the team together searching for higher ground or just stay still in the comfort of the past glory. Neither of this is as easy as it may sound. Any role that bestows responsibility will help you shape your personality. It did to me. I can add adjectives to my experience but to put it simple and keep it effective, I found the depth of many attributes associated with a leader.

Out of the many things that I learnt the most important learning is; to open the doors to a new world, it is just not enough if you hold the right key, YOU should use it.

I found Toastmasters to be the forum to communicate, collaborate and rejuvenate. June’2010 would earmark my three year journey with Toastmasters. What have I achieved? CC and ALB! Nah, the learning’s at every meeting can’t be accounted for in those education tracks. Experiences go beyond.

I take this opportunity to thank Expressions HCL Toastmaster club for nurturing me, wordsmiths club for accepting me as their own, Chennai Toastmasters for being there always, not to forget the Toastmasters from various other clubs I have been associated with.

Communicate sans barrier to live by your aspirations.

Tuesday, February 23, 2010

Dec 2009 - My tryst with Psychology

A break in blogging is inevitable. Instead of rambling over why I wasn’t here, I shall get to sharing what I have missed. Into a new year and so many random thoughts entwined, though I ended 2009 in the most enchanting way.

Ten days away from home for the first time ever in my life, but didn’t feel what one is suppose to ;-) I was looking forward to the opportunity and to the fact that I am finally getting back to studying and studying something that has always intrigued me. The Human Behaviour. It wasn’t any way disappointing, imagine being in a class packed with people from all over the country and of various age groups. Quite an experience! The lectures were no way boring, good food for thought. The schedule was tight that one could never realize anything beyond the present. Experiencing to Live in the present by itself was a worthy experience, how many times does one get to do that in our everyday routine? Though time was hard to account, it wasn’t really strenuous and didn’t demand one to break free. To add to the beauty to the days, i had a good old friend of mine as a companion to partner with me in this aberrant choice of mine. Yes, it did bring in another pleasant dimension to the whole rendezvous. We spent most of the evening talking about people and psychology and wondering if at all our busy urban lifestyle would permit us to take any of these learning’s in? Talking was one activity that we did from dawn to dusk. When you get to do what you want, you tend to add distinctness to your act which you never would otherwise. That’s what we did. At the end of 10 long days, we did want to head back home, but definitely knew we will miss the very feeling of being with the self. 2 months after the classes, still feels fresh. Looking forward to the classes next year.

A nice road trip, with many special moments and enthralling experiences wrapped up the year. I didn't know then it would be a beginning..


Monday, August 10, 2009

Life's Learnings - Learnt the hard way

When your heart is heavy with bitter emotions and your mind is clogged with thoughts, writing is the simplest option to ease your nerves. It is altogether a different debate on what causes your heart to weigh heavy and your mind to be clogged. I often feel it is the aspirations and expectations that one looks for in life. what would keep us going if we didn't have a destination to reach, we would just be left where we are.

It is very important and necessary to envision your destination , do all you can to discover the righteous path to that destination and yet not expect an outcome, for those who fantasize their destination will only end up being hurt, now or another day. One can only set his eyes on the destination, but never will know the nature of the destination till he belongs there, And what you get does not necessarily depend on the righteous path you took , many parameters beyond your own comprehension might steal that fantasy away from you.

To just save you from the apathy of a heavy heart and clogged mind, behold your fantasies, never set expectations for there is no righteousness that can be measured. Alas, you and i are humans and would have to evolve to unlearn our characteristic trait of setting expectations.

Tuesday, May 19, 2009

Lovely vacation at Marari resorts

We had been to this place called Marari Beach Resort for our first wedding anniversary, it was such a wonderful stay. The resort is located at Mararikulam village, around 80 km from Cochin Airport. What's so special about the resort ? I knew we didnt have much to see around the place and it was entirely gonna be in the resort and yet decided to go there..and they didnt disappoint us at all.

It was a 2 days stay, the resort was different in its policies, one of those that promote eco-tourism but in different package. one of their key values says "Benefitting the local community" and they do.They have their own bio-gas plant, do vermi composition to generate fertilisers, very much self -reliant..i should say. They have a butterfly garden, i found this a bit unique.. learnt a bit about butterflies ;-) they boast of about 95 different varities through the seasons.. i learnt that butterflies does not necessarily look for plants with nectar, breaking the myth.They have their own organic farm.very impressive.

you must be wondering what did this couple do on a holiday visiting organic farms and bio-gas plants ..Ha Ha..for those who know us, that shouldn't be of a surprise ! Their accomadations are brilliant and i am saving their best for the last .. they have rooms that offer private pools and we availed one of those.. It was a great experience to have your own pool ;-)

Their in-house ayurvedic doctor was so amicable, he educated us on Ayurveda and its essentials.. I have shown keen interest in ayurveda off late and more so after my wedding , after all , the heath of the family is in the womens hand..;-) So, i enjoyed that very much too..

The beach is accessible from the resort and is being well-maintained by the resort.. i found clean white sand for the first time ever in India, probably the second after Goa.. Litter free ..phew..i was delighted.. calm and peaceful..lovely indeed..

We even went cycling around the village, kerala villages are different and potrays a richer picture of Indian villages...brings in a sense of contentment..

Finally , the staff on the resort were exemplary..!! I dont wanna say any further.. If CGH's Management is advocating living in harmony with nature...then what better way to do that , with their friendly staff..

After any vacation, my mind would say "No more vactions for the next couple of months", but this time around, i was already planning for the next :-) Kerals is always special and will keep coming back...Marari or any of CGH's property would be the right choice..

Saturday, May 9, 2009

samskritham - linguistical wonder

Sanskrit is a beautiful language, learning this language is a pure joy.. i have just set on a journey to uncover the secrets of this language.. it is just so marvelous to know , how the structure of the language and the grouping of the phonemes were done , to benefit human health. It is believed and proven that the recitation of the sanskrit hymns , activates the particular organs based on the mantra one recites.. In one of the studies , it was said that sanskrit is the only spoken language that could be leveraged to a programming language for its accurate syntax and structure.

By knowing sanskrit , one has the advantage to comprehend the most profound and rich knowledge of ancient India..The ancient scripture has accounts of mathematics, physics, medicine,astronomy, philosophy, law and the like. you name it and you will find it. We have such rich database yet we are in search of the modern solutions... No they aren't outdated, much of it still to be discovered by modern world..

If your past interests you, here is the medium - Samskritam..

Friday, May 8, 2009

An Ode To Daddy

As tiny toddlers, in your arms we grew,

Imbibing the virtues of being honest and true.

Disciplined in your deeds, endorsing values that comes of age,

Evolving in your principles, blessed we are to be born in your lineage.

In your personification of compassion, we reckoned the power of unity,

Flaunting kindness, benevolent to all, thy, an epitome of humanity.

In safe hands, under protective care, molded we were, by dearth of fortitude,

With viciousness afar, we comprehended the world finer, not deterring our attitude.

A loving husband, a sincere officer, adorable sibling to a dutiful son being the foundation,

Etching the perfect roles in life that many of us look up to as an inspiration.

Caring father, a very fond grand dad, above all a fine human being,

A rarity blended into one, sets him apart, much to everyone’s liking.



We all love you Daddy !!


This is to my beloved grand dad, who reached the heavenly abode on 21st March 2009. He has taught me what to be and what not be in life.. Miss you.



Be the change you want to see..

Right from my school days , i have always wondered, why do we call India a "Developing Country" even after 45 yrs of freedom then.. Today i know the reasons aplenty.. like any Indian, i would want my country to flourish :) Not to compete with the riches of the rich, but just to be there..where we deserve to be and command our respect.. I have very less knowledge to talk about the history of country , i can only say that am proud to be born here where the mystery of life originated and prevails :)

As i grew, i decided to do something to command our respect back.. today as a part of a dedicated team, we feel the key to India's growth lies in 'Education'.. The knowledge that ancient India gave to the world is lost in our own lands.. we teach less fortunate children to equip themselves with knowledge and bestow India with righteousness.. Our group is called Dream India , a registered NGO...any body who wants to volunteer , can visit www.dreamindia2020.org to know more about us..


A candle loses nothing by lighting another candle.. India was and is , one such candle. Let us strive to understand her..